Regarding these eight things that you can implement in your company, what would happen if we would add: how do you feel from 1 to 10, according to this form score?
I think all those ideas, like the grumble time, the form score, etc; work if you have that kind of leadership that's already seen as transparent and vulnerable and open and really sort of taking mental health seriously. Where you have a leadership that's considered to be quite hostile, the problem that you have in checking how useful the meeting or form score is, is that people will give false answers just because it makes their life easier to do so in the immediate moment. So I think all of that is important as long as behind that, you have the vulnerable leadership that really brings it to life.
How can I we stop the battle in our head, knowing that the best thing to do is first take care of my own wellbeing before I start taking care of others/job deliverables/must do’s, but starting instead with all the must do’s and hoping that at the end of the day there is some energy left for my own wellbeing?
If you always put your well being second, because you're waiting for a less busy/demanding day to arrive, you will be forever waiting and that less busy day will never arrive.
Thus, the question is, what can you do, to deliver some quick, small, and easy wins for your wellbeing, which doesn't add to your to-do list, and which when done consistently, make a big impact. When you're very busy, it's about lots of marginal, small, easy steps, which together make a big step.
What can parents do when working long hours, to maintain good relationships with their children?
No easy answer, but what we must ensure isensure, is that we do not break our promises to our children., So thus if we say, 'I'll help you with your homework for half an hour at 4 pm, then at 3.58 pm, switch off your phone, close your laptop and be in the room (physically and mentally with your child until 4.30pm.) When we give them our attention, we must give them our undivided attention and fully deliver on our promises.
I have a hostile boss; how can I change this?
You can't change him/her - trying to do so is equivalent to banging your head repeatedly against a wall!
All you can do is work out what your own boundaries look like in the dynamic with your boss: be clear on your negotiable boundaries, non-negotiable boundaries, and nice-to-have-but-not-critical boundaries, then communicate them to your boss (as scary as that might be), and then stick to them. Some people push other people about as much as they can, but when those people push back, they don't push so hard anymore.
Depending on the situation, you could seek out your boss for a conversation, or HR, or make a formal complaint, or leave move your employer entirely, being clear about why you left (this helps your employer to understand that there is a problem).
What can I do in my day job to feel more energised?
You have to define what's going on. Only then, you can you begin to think about a remedy. It could be that you're temporarily bored (but better days are coming), that you're sleep-deprived, or socially isolated/lonely, that you're in the wrong job, wrong company, that you've lost confidence in general, that you have poor habits around sleep and/or technology, exercise, nutrition - it's only when you identify some of the likely triggers, that you can tackle the issue.
